A well-being resource for Gloriavale leavers

Healthy Transitions

Well-being is the state of being happy, healthy and safe. Wellbeing includes having good physical and mental health, high satisfaction with your life, a sense of meaning & purpose, and the ability to manage stress. This is what we want for people who have left Gloriavale, but we know that past experiences, attitudes and outlook can all impact your sense of wellbeing.

Leaving Gloriavale is extremely stressful and comes with a sense of loss and grief about what you no longer have, along with anxiety for what lies ahead. This is normal, and the transition period can be rocky, but there is also much to be excited about.

Healthy Transitions is designed to help you take a closer look at some ingrained beliefs and value systems, to help you overcome roadblocks and move you forwards to a healthier state. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and things won’t get fixed in an instant, but with some self-reflection and perseverance you will be on the road to recovery much more quickly.

To view our Healthy Transitions resources, please click on the relevant topic below.

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Healthy Transitions - Abuse Overview

Abuse Overview

Healthy Transitions - Anxiety Module

Anxiety

Healthy Transitions - Cognitive Dissonance

Cognitive Dissonance

Healthy Transitions - Emotional Abuse

Emotional Abuse

Healthy Transitions - Flashbacks

Flashbacks

Healthy Transitions - Grief & Loss Module

Grief & Loss

Healthy Transitions - Neglect

Neglect

Healthy Transitions - Flashbacks

Panic Attacks

Healthy Transitions - Resilience Module

Resilience

Healthy Transitions - Spiritual Abuse

Spiritual Abuse

Healthy Transitions - Trauma

Trauma

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How to use this resource

Healthy Transitions is written to help those transitioning out of high-control, thought-control groups into wider society. The sessions are specifically selected to deal with a range of issues that most former cult members struggle with at some point in their journey.

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Why Counselling?

Counselling and therapy helps people to handle and manage disappointment. It’s when disappointment sours and turns into despair and bitterness, that it has the potential to derail your life. Therapy is about one’s willingness to grow or change ,to be open, and to learn.

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Emotional Health

Cognitive Dissonance

Cognitive Dissonance can be defined as conflict between beliefs, attitudes and actions in life situations. People can experience it when they hold two conflicting beliefs, or act in way that conflicts with an existing belief.

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Grief & Loss

Grief is the emotion that shows up due to significant changes that may have happened in your life. It is often the result of death and/or separation, but it can also be triggered from job loss, health issues, moving, change of roles, financial crisis, and many other significant changes.

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Anxiety

Anxiety is a completely normal response to stress. Usually we can be temporarily distressed and worried and then we can put it out of our minds, but if you worry in an ongoing manner about many things (finances, your family, your car, your pets, even how you will make it through the day), then this is a cause for concern.

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Anger

Anger is an automatic, secondary emotion that all people experience. It is activated by fear, anxiety, hurt, pain, loss, sadness, frustration and injustice. People who leave high-control groups often experience anger as they try to process what’s happened.

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Trauma

Trauma is an emotional response to a deeply disturbing event. It’s the result of an overwhelming amount of stress that exceeds one’s ability to cope. A traumatized person can feel a range of emotions both immediately after the event and in the long term.

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PTSD

PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) happens to some people after something traumatic has occurred. It’s the brain’s response to trauma, which results in improper processing and storage of traumatic memories.

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Flashbacks

Flashbacks are psychological phenomena during which a person relives a past event or fragments of a past experience. They generally occur involuntarily, abruptly entering an individual’s awareness without the aid of conscious attempts to recall the memory, and they may be intense.

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Panic Attacks

Panic Attacks are feelings of severe anxiety that start and finish quite suddenly. Features can include difficulty breathing, shaking, nausea, heart pain, dizziness etc. The feelings may be so scary that you feel that you are about to die, collapse or lose control of your mind.

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Resilience

Resilience is the ability to recover quickly or “bounce back” from difficult and challenging situations. People who have been involved in high-control groups will bounce back at different rates depending on their resiliency factors.

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Physical Health

Doctors

Parents have a responsibility of guardianship to their children. This includes looking after their physical and mental health and safety needs. Research shows that people who have lived in high-control groups frequently have had their health needs ignored.

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Dentists

Poor physical and dental health is often associated with high-control groups where the individual needs of the members are sacrificed for the greater collective good. Excuses of not having enough money or faith are commonly stated. Lack of dental understanding and education can also play a part.

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Sleep

How well we sleep can impact every aspect of life and well-being. Insomnia or poor sleep can lead to weakened immunity, high blood pressure, low mood, depression & obesity, early aging, memory problems, poor concentration and increased accidents and other health problems.

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Abuse Awareness

Abuse Overview

Abuse is defined as any action that intentionally harms or injures another person. Abuse is often categorised into emotional or psychological abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse & spiritual abuse. In high-control groups, the abuse is often occurring in all of these categories.

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Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse is a way to control another person by using emotions to criticize, embarrass, shame, blame, or otherwise manipulate another person. Emotional abuse can be subtle and insidious, or overt and manipulative. It may involve statements, threats or actions. Emotional abuse can leave real scars.

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Neglect

Neglect is failure on behalf of a caregiver to provide necessary care to ensure no harm comes to a child. It may be that their physical, educational & emotional needs are not provided for. Having limited resources or living in poverty is not necessarily neglect.

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Spiritual Abuse

Spiritual abuse is where there is an attempt to exert power and control over someone using religion, faith, or beliefs. The abusive leader/s will use scripture or beliefs to coerce or control the behaviour of members of the organisation.

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Cult Awareness

Cult Characteristics

Cults are more commonly known as high-control, or high-demand or thought-control groups. They exist all over the world, and a large majority of them have their basis in religion. However cults are NOT identified by their religious beliefs. But they ARE characterised by their harmful social practices.

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Should I Stay or Go?

Help! You realise you’re in a thought control group, and you feel trapped. What are your options?

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